Episode 3
David Dhanoa
A Brampton realtor and martial artist on chasing money in his twenties, anger, gratitude, and what actually helped once the chasing stopped paying off.
In their words
Pull quotes
"Money is just a tool and not a master."
"Be hard on the problem, soft on the person. You never know what anybody is going through."
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What this one is about
What this episode is about
David Dhanoa, realtor, martial artist, and longtime food bank volunteer, talks about growing up in a spiritual Sikh household, chasing money and material goals in his twenties, and what actually helped when the chasing stopped paying off.
He gets specific about anger (his own, and what to do with it), why "balance" is mostly a myth, and how he uses martial arts principles to talk himself down before a fight starts, in his head or in real life. The back half is a practical, unpolished conversation about phone addiction and doomscrolling, not "delete the app" advice, but how to notice what it's doing to you and redirect it.
Good listen for anyone stuck comparing their life to other people's, anyone who was taught men don't talk about feelings, or anyone who got the thing they wanted and still felt empty.
Key moments
Listen for the part where…
- your problems feel huge until you see what real struggle looks like▸ 1:34
- your life didn't turn out the way you planned it▸ 5:46
- you can't stop chasing the next thing▸ 7:50
- you got the thing you thought would make you happy and it wore off fast▸ 9:56
- you feel like you're never enough compared to what you're sold▸ 11:29
- you've had that moment, even as a kid, wondering if this is all life is▸ 14:31
- you feel pressure and stress constantly and don't know how to talk about it▸ 15:33
- you're trying to make sense of why something bad happened to you▸ 16:04
- you feel like a fraud for still getting angry or sad when you're "supposed to" be positive▸ 16:37
- you can't stop replaying something you can't change▸ 17:10
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- you feel stuck and like giving up on something▸ 17:42
- you want to quit something that's gotten hard▸ 18:14
- you just lost a job or a deal and don't know what to do next▸ 21:20
- you're being way too hard on yourself for not doing enough▸ 22:22
- you got the praise and recognition and it still didn't feel good▸ 23:24
- you're a guy and don't have anywhere to actually talk about what's going on▸ 26:32
- you feel guilty that you can't keep work, gym, and family all going at once▸ 33:47
- you feel judged by how much money you have▸ 36:55
- you keep comparing your life to what influencers post online▸ 37:57
- you get what you wanted and immediately want the next thing▸ 38:28
- you feel like everyone else has it more together than you▸ 39:30
- you're stressed trying to control people or situations you can't control▸ 43:10
- someone hurt you and you don't know whether to stay angry at them▸ 43:41
- you're a generally positive person but still get angry and it feels contradictory▸ 47:18
- anger is spilling into drinking or other ways of numbing out▸ 48:52
- you're bottling up anger instead of dealing with it▸ 49:22
- you get into conflict and don't know how to calm yourself or the other person down▸ 55:11
- you doomscroll and end up comparing your life to everyone else's highlight reel▸ 57:16
- you know you spend too much time on your phone and can't seem to stop▸ 58:18
- you want to fix your relationship with social media but don't know where to start▸ 59:19